Being Lost On My Own Terms – Onward to 60!

Being Lost On My Own Terms – Onward to 60!

I’ve been lost for a very long time – 55 years to be exact.

I’ve recently discovered there are two types of “being lost”. The lost I felt for the first 50 years of my life, and the lost I feel now.

Being lost isn’t just about walking around in circles trying to get back on a well-marked road or path. I was on a well-marked road for almost 50 years and I was still lost. Problem was that road was designed by someone else, not by me.

The type of lost I am referring to is not being true to me, my authentic self, and how I wanted to live a life of my design.

I was married two months shy of my 20th birthday. Four months into this marriage I realized it wasn’t what I wanted. Not that my husband was a bad guy or that I didn’t love him. I married him because I felt that was what I was supposed to do. I can still hear my mother – “You should marry that boy, he will calm you down.”

So I did.

I also felt I needed to get married because I didn’t know what else to do. I was ill equipped to function in the real world.

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During this marriage of almost 20 years I changed my political leanings to suit their ideology. I followed their religious beliefs, mostly out of fear of verbal retaliation for declaring that I didn’t believe in anything. I moved to a place where I had no friends and knew no one. I will not go into many details mostly out of respect for my children, but let’s just say I was miserable. Prozac and I were friends.

After the divorce of my first marriage I fell into a relationship with a good-looking, smooth-talking man with many narcissistic tendencies. Once again I fashioned my life to suit his idea of how we should live. This time vodka and I were friends.

My marriage to my second husband almost cost me my life.

Here is a video of my story I used for a now defunct project. The story is still relevant.

I spent many years lost because I had no idea who I was or what I wanted. This lack of self was exacerbated by me forcing myself to mold my thoughts and behaviors as others said I should, knowing all the time it wasn’t me, it wasn’t what I wanted.

I didn’t have a clear sense of self, no set of unwavering values, no self-worth, or a clear picture of who I wanted to be or where I wanted to go, so it was easy to be led down paths I didn’t want to go.

I wandered around lost, those many years.

When I turned 50 I was still lost. However, I was lost on my own terms. The paths I now wander are not set forth by others, they are not straight. My life is slowly starting to look like me. I am still lost, but this trek into an unfamiliar forest is not scary, it’s exhilarating, and I am so excited to see where this path takes me.

For more resources on how I turned my life around go to my You Tube channel. There you will find many ideas to help you create your own path.

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