Do you have a gym membership that you never use? Every month you watch the gym fee come out of your checking account. You may have a moment of feelings regarding this gym membership, such as dismay, embarrassment, anger, or sadness. This membership is sucking money out every month and it’s going into the pocket and well-being of someone else. You may as well be throwing that money into the fire.
You probably even go as far as to say one of two things:
I am going to cancel this membership, or I need to start going back to the gym.
Then the moment is gone, and you move on to the next thing.
I bought a subscription to a magazine, because I sort of like the magazine, it was a cheap offer to first time subscribers, and I got a cool gift. Every week the magazine would come to my house. I kept telling myself that I should cancel this subscription. The were up my coffee table. I was moving the magazine piles from place to place. I couldn’t just throw them away because it was so much paper, yet I couldn’t seem to get them to recycling.
The moment I acted was when I received an email saying the magazine would auto renewal in a month, for $129. Yikes! That caught my attention and I promptly cancelled the magazine.
For a long time I belonged to many clubs. Some of these club memberships I inherited from my parents, who I’m sure got them from their parents. Some I signed up on my own.
“I care what you think about me” club.
“I don’t believe I have the right to stand up for myself” club.
“It’s not my fault my life sucks” club.
“Change is too hard, I am comfy right here” club.
“Gossip and drama” club.
“Cover up my pain with food and alcohol” club.
Canceling My Club Memberships
It wasn’t until I was looking over a cliff that I decided it was time to cancel my memberships to these clubs.
Like the magazine subscription, the price of constantly dealing with all those magazines that were just taking up space, and that was eating up resources, my club memberships became too costly.
I wish I could tell you canceling those club memberships was as easy as signing into an account and hitting please unsubscribe. We become very attached to our club memberships because they are familiar. We like to feel safe, and even the harmful and unhealthy can feel safe. We know what to expect.
The first order of business is to gather up all the clubs you belong to.
Which clubs are sucking you dry of resources (time and money), and that are taking up valuable head and emotional space.
Assign a value, of sorts to each club.
For example, if you belong to the “It’s not my fault my life sucks” club the value would be deciding to take responsibility for your own life. While you may not have control over everything, we do have control over how we react and move forward. It may suck big time, but we must accept our reality.
Work on canceling one or two club memberships at a time.
I believe you will find a domino effect happening. All the club memberships will be easier to cancel.
What are the club memberships you need to kick to the curb? Would love your thoughts!
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